Before we can move on from it, we first have to feel our sadness. Grief, like all emotions, grows in magnitude the longer we ignore it. In order to move past our emotions, we must regularly take stock and allow time to process them. Sadness can and does come from anywhere. It could be feelings of loss over the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or the close of one chapter of our lives as another begins. We could be disappointed by dreams never realized, or ambitions we let die. No matter the cause, we must feel our feelings. Only then can we move forward.
On this topic, Anne Wilson Schaef writes:
“Resignation . . . despair . . . a sadness in lost possibilities. It’s time to take stock and realign our priorities. We seem to have wandered off our path. Perhaps we have even forgotten what our path was.
Maybe it is time to feel the grief of lost opportunities and stagnating minds. Life often teaches us through our wrong turns and missed possibilities. This feeling of sadness may well be the door to a new beginning. But we will never go through the new door if we do not let ourselves go through the grief and sadness.
As we let ourselves feel our grief and pain, we will truly have the opportunity to step onto a new path and to explore our lives.”
Haven’t we earned our sadness? Isn’t our grief ours and ours alone? There is a certain peace that comes from owning our emotions. It is powerful to accept our sadness and embrace it instead of running from it all the time. It gets tiresome running.
They say that every ending is just a new beginning, and it is true. The start of something new always signals the end of something else. Before we can look forward to what lies ahead, though, it’s important that we look back to appreciate what we are leaving behind. Each time, place, event, or person in our lives serves a special purpose. They are part of what makes us who we are today. It’s okay and even expected to be sad when we begin to leave them behind. Saying goodbye is never easy, but it is part of the process of life. We can still mourn the loss of something good while still looking forward to something even better. Before moving on, we must look back and give thanks for all that we have encountered thus far on our journey, and the ways in which these moments have served us. There is beauty in our sadness and this process of growth.