Self-esteem is something I struggle with. Throughout my life, I have depended on others for approval. When we base our self-esteem on external factors that can change at a moment’s notice, we make ourselves vulnerable. We don’t believe in our own worth. How could we be expected to have confidence?
On this topic,
“When a woman believes that she is equal, she is called uppity. When we stand up for what we know and for what we believe, we are called aggressive and unfeminine. When we state that women are wonderful and that we are proud to be a woman, we are told that we are antimale.
When we put forth our perceptions, we are told that we don’t understand reality. When we put forth our values, we are told that we are crazy and we just don’t understand the way the world works. Is it any wonder that we sometimes have trouble with self-esteem?”
Women receive many messages throughout our lives—whether in teasing on the playground, advertising or television, and more insidious means—that tell us we are too much or not enough. It’s hard not to absorb the message if you hear it enough. While our self-esteem might perpetually be under attack, we must remember that deep down it is ours. It belongs to us. Our worth is ours alone to determine. We can only be made to feel inferior if we allow ourselves to, and we have the power to decide. Self-esteem and confidence, it turns out, are choices you make every day, like being happy.