Step Eleven of the Twelve Step program states that we “seek through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understand Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.” In other words, we must develop our spirituality, deepen our relationship with the universe, and understand that God or the universe or however we like to think of that power has a plan for us and can empower us through our own spiritual relationship to pursue that plan. In other words, we belong. There is something more in store for us, and we must believe that God has a plan for us. We are meant to be here. There is a higher purpose to our existence.
On this topic, Anne Wilson Schaef writes:
“Many of us who do too much have long since forsaken our childhood ‘God’ and have found nothing to replace ‘Him.’ When we have called upon ‘Him,’ we were sure that he went into his privy-house and slammed the door. The sound of that door slamming has echoed and careened throughout our aloneness. We were on our own now. We had to do it ourselves. How dualistic we have been. If the God of our childhood didn’t work, we would have no contact with any spirituality. Yet, the real loss is our loss of contact with our spiritual selves. We do need time for prayer, meditation, and reflection that is congruent with who we are. When we take that time, we find there is something there beyond ourselves.”
A lot of times, people turn to addiction because they feel hopeless. They have lost sight of the meaning of their lives and feel they have no purpose, nowhere else to go. What is the point of it all? I have often felt this way. It’s not that I think my life doesn’t matter, but in the grand scheme of it all, what impact am I really having? What is the purpose of it all? These are the thoughts of someone who has become disconnected from the universe as well as the people around them. We all play a part in this world. We touch the lives of the people around us every day in a million small and yet significant ways. We do matter. We’re here for a reason. It’s important to stay connected to the universe and remember that there is more to this life than ourselves and our internal monologue has us believe.