Exhaustion seems to be the norm for people today. Even those among us who are blessed with good jobs that pay well find themselves run down by the mounting pressures of life. This problem seems to be compounded by a lack of time. We commute, work, care for others, and care for ourselves. We cook, clean, eat, and bathe. We sleep. Somehow in the midst of all this, we find time to entertain, but at the end of the day we must ask ourselves, what time does this leave for us? It is so exhausting just to be a self-sufficient adult, I cannot fathom having a child to raise. We need help. As a society, we’ve lost touch with our roots, trading communal support for independence.
On the topic of exhaustion, Anne Wilson Schaef writes:
“Past generations had the luxury and support of extended families. Grandparents were around and often found meaning in sharing stories about their life and times. As children sat listening, their parents felt the warm glow of recognition and familiarity and chuckled inwardly as old tales were told and retold.
But now many of us are isolated from extended family, or we don’t have the time for family. We are it for our children. We have to be past, present, and guides to the future. This is exhausting.”
It is both exhausting and grueling to go it alone in the world, doing everything yourself. That is so much for one person to take on. Even for two. The old saying, “It takes a village to raise a child,” exists for a reason. Not one of us can go through this world entirely on our own without help of others. Being isolated is tiresome and sad. I am a firm believer in the notion that if you are without family for whatever reason, you simply make your own family. Find resources where you are. Get the support you need. But first, you must be willing and open to ask. Ask and ye shall receive is the great guiding principle of the universe. Do it for your own sake, if not that of your family and friends, for they will surely thank you. In getting help, we make ourselves better, kinder people for the world. Accepting help is an act of self-care and kindness for everyone involved. When we are exhausted, we can’t help anyone, least of all ourselves.