How fitting that today, the day after returning from a weekend spent with one of my best friends, the topic I should write about is friendship. Indeed, I have felt very grateful for the friends in my life. It can be all too easy to focus on that which we lack and overlook that which we have in abundance. Though my friends may be few in number, what they lack in quantity they make up for in quality. I have always preferred a handful of close friendships over acquaintances with many. I am very blessed to know such wonderful people who I can share my true weird self with, who judge me not, who love me and always have my back.
On the topic of friendship, Anne Wilson Schaef writes:
“We sometimes forget all the friends we have had in our lives. The negative thinking of our disease tends to focus on what is missing. But let’s take today and let ourselves remember the friends who have been there for us.
For me, there was the little old lady with the beautiful flower garden who would not let my parents spank me when I tried to pick some flowers and inadvertently pulled them up by the roots. ‘She was only admiring their beauty,’ she said when my mother marched me over to apologize. And there was the friend in grade school who came forward to share the rap when I was the only one caught. There were friends who shared our tentative relationships and sexual explorations and never told. There were friends we studied with, hung out with, grew up with—who were there for us. There were adults who served as models and mentors and judged us not. There were friends.”
Friendship is one of the greatest gifts of our lives. A friend is someone to laugh with, to cry with, to commiserate. To share in joy and good times as well as the bad. While our family and significant other or spouse is important, our life would be rather dull without friends. They bring color and excitement to our world. They are people whom we share interests with as well as our darkest secrets. My friends inspire me with their talents, their interests and pursued passions, some of which overlap with my own. Friends provoke us with deep conversations or share in being complete idiots with us—often both! They are someone with whom we can let our guards down. A friend is someone with whom we share kindness and compassion. My life is so much more rich and vibrant because of my dear friends.