Acceptance of who we are is an integral part of the process of becoming who we are meant to be. Each person’s life is a process through which we are (hopefully) constantly learning, growing and evolving. Everything that happens to us throughout our lives becomes a valuable piece of who we are, a part of our story. Even the bad things that happen have a lesson to offer us. We can always learn from our experiences whether good or bad. The difficulty is in bringing all of these pieces together and learning to accept even the terrible experiences we face as a part of who we are.
“Life is a process. We are a process. Everything that has happened in our lives has happened for a reason and is an integral part of our becoming.
One of the challenges of our lives is to integrate the pieces of our lies as we live them. It is sometimes tempting to try to deny huge periods of our lives or forget significant events, especially if they have been painful. To try to erase our past is to rob ourselves of our own hard-earned wisdom.
There is not a child or adolescent within us. There is the child or adolescent who has grown into us.
When we realize that among the most important strengths that we bring to our work are the life experiences we have had and the ages we have been, maybe we will not resent getting older.”
Society and popular culture would have us believe that aging is one of the worst things that can happen. Growing older is something to dread, a terrible experience one should avoid at all costs. Here’s the thing though: We can’t avoid it. The only alternative there is to growing older is being dead. Also, the older I get the more I learn how wonderful age is. With age comes experience, and with that comes knowledge. We grow into wiser versions of ourselves. Now that I’m nearing 30, I feel like my life is just beginning.
It can be hard to look back at the younger versions of myself. The memories I have of my less experienced formative years are not always pleasant to remember. There are many things I have done that I sometimes wish I could change or at least forget about. Choices I made out of fear and insecurity. People whose intolerance and mistreatment of me I put up with. Times I turned a blind eye to injustices done to others out of some selfish desire to be liked or to simply take the easy way out. I’m not proud of these things. But it’s important that I not deny them or pretend they didn’t happen. I’ve become the person I am today, a person whom I like and respect and even admire, because of the mistakes I made in my past. Owning those mistakes helps me learn from them so I can avoid making them again in the future. We are always evolving and becoming.