I recall seeing a quote recently that said more or less, “Everything you have today, you once wanted more than anything.” If you are fortunate as I am, then that saying will ring true to you. What we often forget is that the choices we make every day determine the person we will be in the future. Our goals and desires shape who we become based on the actions we take to get there.
On the topic of goals and competition, Anne Wilson Schaef writes:
“What you have become is the price you paid to get what you used to want. Was it worth it? Is it worth it? Can we look in the mirror and say to the person we see, ‘You are someone I trust and really admire’?
We must remember that each step along the road of life is like taking a walk. It gets you somewhere and steps often leave footprints.
We cannot say to ourselves, ‘Well, what I am doing is expedient now, so I will go ahead and do it this way. I will deal with the consequences later,’ and not have consequences later. The denials of our life are interrelated.”
Again this goes back, in part, to integrity and our choices. We have to live with who we are. Can you look at the man or woman in the mirror and be happy with whom you see? Or are the means you use to achieve your desired ends less than admirable? Do you feel guilt or shame at the way in which you have accomplished your goals? If that is the case, how can you expect to feel happy or satisfied in reaching them?
There are consequences to every decision we make or action we take. We cannot avoid them forever, no matter however much we may try. Much as our pain returns with a vengeance to haunt us if we do not allows ourselves to feel and process it, so too does the consequences of our actions if we choose to ignore and deny them. It is much better and far more admirable to face the results of our actions head on and accept responsibility for them. Be proud of the person you see in the mirror. Live the way that makes you into the person you wish to be.