Self-confidence is a state of calm, an inner peace that comes from not only knowing who you are, but accepting who you are as well. I have only recently begun to feel confident in myself, and it has come from being honest with myself about who I am and what I truly want in life.
On the topic of self-confidence, Anne Wilson Schaef writes:
Self-confidence is so relaxing. There is no strain or stress when one is self-confident. Our lack of self-confidence mostly comes from trying to be someone we aren’t. No wonder we do not feel confident when we are living a lie. When we realize that the best we have to bring to any situation is being just who we are, we relax. People who are cocky often show an alarming lack of self-confidence. They don’t know what they have to offer. When we know what we have to offer and we bring it to each situation, that’s all we need to do.
There was a time when I mistook cockiness for self-confidence. Some of the most cocksure people I know are, upon closer inspection, also some of the most insecure people I know. They are afraid to let anyone get too close for fear they might see them for who they really are. In fact, I have a tendency to lie to myself in an effort to be who I think people want or expect me to be. I want so badly to tell people what I think they want to hear when really I would be much happier if I simply allowed people to either accept or reject me for who I truly am. After all, if you can’t stay true to yourself, who are you really? You only get one life to live. Wouldn’t you rather spend it living for yourself? I know I would.